My past story and my friend’s story provide classic examples of consequences that people face when they put their identity at the wrong place — guys/girls instead of Christ. Truth is, we won’t find the fullness of our existence by being someone else’s boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife; not even being a mother/father. We won’t find our purpose and worth in being needed and wanted by someone.
We can blame the world for being too romanticised (like labelling people based on their relationship status, or alluring people to believe that being married/in a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship will make someone whole) or just too temporal in thinking (like labelling people based on what they do or what they have). But deep down, it really is not just the world, it’s also our longing to find fullness in our existence.
She stared blankly at me, absorbing the question and probably thinking of an answer.
I know that this question seems blunt or rather harsh but, in reference to God’s word, I think that this is an important question to ponder on.
If you can confidently say “Yes” to this question, it means that your security is not based on your relationship status nor from anyone else. It means that you do not need a relationship or another person to complete or satisfy you. It means that you are secured of who Christ is in your life.
After I pointed out the post-it note to my Churchmates, we decided to post Bible verses on the wall, too. Then with an excited tone, my best friend told me, “Let’s write the verse about the birds!” She was referring to Luke 12:22-26.
I could not help but laugh. She wanted to encourage someone with the verse that encouraged her.