The One Question You Should Ask Yourself To Know If You’re Really Ready For Courtship and Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

My past story and my friend’s story provide classic examples of consequences that people face when they put their identity at the wrong place — guys/girls instead of Christ. Truth is, we won’t find the fullness of our existence by being someone else’s boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife; not even being a mother/father. We won’t find our purpose and worth in being needed and wanted by someone.

We can blame the world for being too romanticised (like labelling people based on their relationship status, or alluring people to believe that being married/in a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship will make someone whole) or just too temporal in thinking (like labelling people based on what they do or what they have). But deep down, it really is not just the world, it’s also our longing to find fullness in our existence.


The One Question You Should Ask Yourself To Know If You’re Really Ready For Courtship and Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

She stared blankly at me, absorbing the question and probably thinking of an answer.

I know that this question seems blunt or rather harsh but, in reference to God’s word, I think that this is an important question to ponder on.

If you can confidently say “Yes” to this question, it means that your security is not based on your relationship status nor from anyone else. It means that you do not need a relationship or another person to complete or satisfy you. It means that you are secured of who Christ is in your life. 

Dear Re-entry Plan: It’s Not You, It’s Me

It really has not sunk in yet. It has been a year since my Leadership Development Institute (LDI) Training. Facebook algorithm has been on-point in showing me throwback photos from that month-long, once-in-a-lifetime discipleship training. This year’s LDI schedule also prompted me of how the year went by so fast.

One of my major take-aways from the training was the Re-entry Plan, a three-year guide that we, the trainees, have personally and prayerfully committed to prior disembarkation to our designated ministry areas. The Re-entry Plan is intended to help us track and evaluate ministry progress with the vision of Christ in mind. But the motives behind it is really to fervently pray, plan, prepare and practice by faith our daily walk in the Lord in light of the Great Commission.

Being, Not Merely Calling

In Matthew 7:15, fake Christians are said to come “in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves.” Hence, the warning of Jesus in verse 21: “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.”

God repeatedly warns every professing believer of Jesus to be very careful in making sure that their professed faith is authentic inside and out, objectively and personally. He even shares in verse 23 what He will say to fake Christians when He meets them face to face in judgment: “I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!”

Can I Call Myself A Christian But Not Make Disciples?

To go and make disciples of all nations, as told in Matthew 28:18-20, is not a Christian regulation we can either follow or neglect whenever we want to or feel like it. To go and make disciples of all nations is a non-negotiable duty given by the Lord Jesus Himself to those who profess to believe in Him.

But how come many professing believers of Jesus still do not make disciples? How come many Christians remain comfortable being churchgoers instead of disciple-makers? How come many Christians have heard about this but only a few respond to it? Why does it seem like Christ’s Great Commission is an optional mission for many?